Do You Understand Marriage?

Posted in Marriage on September 9, 2010 by chadalanevents

I’ve decided to write another series, this one dealing with Marriage and what I feel a wedding should embody.  So many people have allowed weddings to become common. A wedding itself may be common place in your life, but the divine union created at a wedding ceremony is something that should never be considered common, normal, or ordinary.

In this series I will discuss some of the things I have learned over the last 10 years of my own marriage.  Some of the things I have learned the hard way, some came natural, and some I’m still struggling to learn.  but it is extremely important that both, husbands and wives, understand what marriage truly is and how to create a marriage that can survive the most perilous situations.  Remember, your vows will say “For better, or for worse” but do you really mean it? Do you really understand it? Can you really be there in the worst?  There is only way you can answer yes and truly mean it.  And, we will begin our journey in the next post with a discussion on Love…you thought you knew what it was! So did I.


The Enemy of Great is Good – Part 4

Posted in DJ/MC Industry, WPI Certified Wedding Event Planner with tags , , , on August 9, 2010 by chadalanevents

As we continue in this part 4 of “The Enemy of Great is Good” series I want to bring the subject to a personal level.  This time we will be discussing the separation of Business Life and Personal Life.

This isn’t the easiest concept to live by even though on paper is sounds so easy.  In our lives, and as entrepreneurs, we often find our decisions land in the middle since we share so much of our personal life with our business life.  The problems we run into, and sometime never even know they are problems, are easy to fix but take discipline to keep fixed.

The first issue is the separation of business.  By this I mean keeping your financial houses in order.  Do everything in your power to keep you business finances away from personal finances…or should I have said that the other way around.  It is very easy to look at your business and say to yourself “it’s all my money anyway.” While this statement may be true, for you business to grow and prosper you must treat is as a business. And though you are the owner, you must remember you are also an employee. It is a discipline to keep these two apart, trust me I deal with this one every day!

The second issue is the closing hours of business.  When your business is supposed to be closed, close it! Too often I find myself working well beyond the time limit I have placed on my business life and that’s a no, no! I can’t let my personal life suffer because I’m a workaholic.  Besides, my family is far more important to me than my business.  You must give yourself time away from business to clear your thoughts and allow your brain to organize the days’ work.  If you don’t do this then you overflow your brain and you lose thoughts and ideas. Did I mention burn out?

Whatever you make a priority will always dominate your life, for me that’s my family.  You must always remember to define your roles and responsibilities.  Then, you must live by them. It is a concept that sounds so simple, yet when you go to put this in practice you will see how just how difficult it is.

This is just the surface of the issue of keeping business and personal separate, but I hope it gives you a starting point for making changes and starting fresh.  But I ask you, what has been the most challenging aspect of keeping your business and personal separate?

The Enemy of Great is Good – Part 3

Posted in DJ/MC Industry, WPI Certified Wedding Event Planner with tags , , , on August 2, 2010 by chadalanevents

So, in the last post in this series we talked about being involved in your local industry association and in your community. Today I want to bring you the second principle of being great.  This lesson again, was learned while helping my friend rescue his business.

Are you a Mentor? If not are you being mentored? You should have answered yes to at least one of those questions if not both. If you didn’t answer yes, then let’s work on a few things to fix this issue.  I bet you just asked yourself “Why do I need a Mentor?” Thankfully this is an easy answer. Everyone needs a coach; we can’t always see the things we need to fix or the details that are holding us back.  The best example I have is back in college while I was in music school. I had a coach that spent hours with me just hammering me on fundamentals. She constantly was yelling at me to fix my bow pressure, watch my finger positions, and to ease up on my wrists during my bow strokes. She drove me insane! In all honesty I was too young and too stupid to appreciate the lessons she was teaching me. However, I see now the importance of having that person standing by you, helping you fix the tiny details which build a better you.  We often get into a groove will performing our duties and working in our businesses, and this groove can lead to patterns and sometimes it can lead to bad habits.  The worst thing that can happen is we can be doing things wrong and not even be aware we are doing them at all.  This is where having a coach and receiving feedback and critiques can elevate you from good to great!

The second part is being a Mentor.  It doesn’t matter where you are in your business or your career you can always be a Mentor to someone.  Being a mentor is like being a teacher and I’ve always said to others “that if you truly want to learn something teach it.” Over the years I have been a Mentor to quite a few people and with every person that I have been involved with I have always grown personally and professionally.  Each experience was an opportunity for me as well.  I always found something I can do better or a new way of presenting an old idea.  Being a Mentor was and is one of my favorite passions.  I love to teach and I hope that shows in the classes I teach at the University of Texas at Arlington.  I bet some of my students would happily tell you about their experiences…right?

So from this lesson I want to leave with a thought. How far can you elevate yourself without someone helping you? As you think of this question also think about how far you could elevate yourself if you had someone always watching and giving you feedback on your business. So I ask you, what are your experiences with being a Mentor or a student?

You might also want to check out Preston Bailey’s Blog on this very subject

The Enemy of Great is Good – Part 2

Posted in DJ/MC Industry, WPI Certified Wedding Event Planner with tags , , , on July 26, 2010 by chadalanevents

As we begin the discussion on ways you can move from good to great I want you to keep an open mind and allow yourself a chance to change some of the things that are keeping you from being great. The examples that I have taken from helping my friend turn his business around are simple, but doing them takes discipline so as part of this series I am going to share with you some of my own issues with that very subject.

First, my successful friend was a regular attendee at the local association meetings and was involved in his community.  He was taking the time to share knowledge with his peers and enrich his local community.  I often hear people complain that they get nothing from local association meetings, and all I can say is you get what you give.  It’s a shame to see so many good people struggle because they have such a closed minded approach to business.  If you have ever said “I don’t need to go to those meetings because I know everything and they can’t teach me anything” then listen up cause I’m talking to you. A close minded business man is one that will constantly struggle and/or eventually fail.  I know a person in our local association that always complains about content, they say that its always missing “meat” that all the presenters ever do is push products.  While some presenters do have products there is always “meat”, you just are already in the mindset that you can’t learn anything so you don’t LISTEN! If you would come to meeting ready to FIND “meat” you will!  You will see what you want to in everything so leave your preconceived notions at the door and be ready to learn.

The second part of this point is that my successful friend is involved in his community.  If you aren’t participating in your local community in some form or fashion you are doing your business a disservice. By opening yourself up to the community you bring awareness to your business and build relationships that will bring you business.  But ultimately, the success for community involvement is when they refer to you as the expert in your field and other seek your advice.  This status will bring you closer to a “celebrity” figure and will create community and industry buzz.  Approach with caution in this area as the work and time to get to this point is great, but bringing it all down can be as simple as an unreturned phone call.

So I leave you with this to think about.  Are you involved in your industry? Are you involved in your community?  Are you close minded?  Are you good or great?  So tell me, what are you doing?

Fall 2010 Certified Wedding & Event Planner Course

Posted in WPI Certified Wedding Event Planner with tags , , , , on July 18, 2010 by chadalanevents

The 2010 Fall Certified Wedding & Event Planning course has been added to the schedule for the University of Texas at Arlington. Please remeber that there is a limit to the number of students and just like the Summer class enrollment goes very fast, DO NOT WAIT TO REGISTER! The summer class was closed 3 weeks before the start of the class and I suspect this semester will go even fast as the word is out on the extreme value of this course…just ask my students!!